Ke$ha - The Harold Song

Box Up, Ship Out

As the new year draws closer there are calendar events that feature holidays in which family, friends and people we rarely see come in and out of our lives. While this is fine and people may very well only be in our lives for a season, why not take the time to do a little winter cleanup of some friendships?...

Think of it as switching from your Winter wardrobe to your Spring collection. There are many superfluous items that you can box up and ship out. This, in the fashion of those who no longer bring you comfort, cause more upbraids than enjoyment and are more stress inducing than relaxing.

Keep those articles of clothing (people) that have brought you warmth and security through the cold time and bring them closer. Those great layers that you need that aren't too heavy, yet aren't light enough to seem unnecessary.

What this does for us is allowing us to start anew, slate unscathed and ready for the world. Why not take this new slate and open yourself up to new experiences, in the end, you'll definitely thank yourself for a job well done!

Prob-ability

Unfortunately it's been about 4 months since last I posted, in that time, SO much has happened. People have come and gone in my life like the seasons change. Which causes me to ask myself, why are so many of us what my best friend has dubbed "emotional cutters"?

We allow people into our lives that we KNOW are toxic, yet, we allow them to stay for reasons beyond our understanding. It seems to me that a warm body next to us is better than being alone so we hold on to the festering person that intensifies our sickness. Friendships are a lot like relationships, the only differing factor is the sex that's involved, sometimes there are "friends with benefits" so inherently, they ARE relationships.

In a perfect world every friendship and relationship would be 50/50, but as we all know, most of these end because one person is giving a hell of a lot more than they're receiving. So, ultimately it's up to that person to determine whether or not the relationship they're pursuing is worth the hassle that they're going through... chances are, it isn't.

Skeleton Key

'Betrothed to greatness shall I be, forever til eternity..." That's a little something I came up with after having a more than heated upbraid with a friend about a current chart topper. Flo-rida's 'Club Can't Handle Me' has been on repeat on my iPod for a couple of weeks now. The premise of the song is how he arrives at the club and becomes the epitome of party. How he can and will spend as much money, cause the largest ruckus and get the most attention doing whatever it is that he must do to have a good time. While I'm totally fine with this and can obviously relate, my counterpart on the other hand had more than an extreme aversion to such boisterous and ludicrous (not ludacris kids) behavior... Which brings me to the subject of this post, why are we so threatened by the confidence of others?

Do we see something in them that we deeply aspire to have injected into our personality consoles? Do we imagine ourselves being assembled, completely equipped and loaded with all the personality traits and materialistic qualities that we wished we possessed but only come to despise because, oh no, someone else has the pleasure of exuding such things?...

Why do women constantly berate each other and call one another whore and slut because this girl or that girl is getting more attention from the fairer sex because of her ample bossoms and ass-ets.. Should it not bode well for you that you have other ways of getting noticed, or does it bother you THAT much that you wish you were in her shoes? I've always heard that a drunk girl's actions are a sober girl's thoughts...

Or why is it that when men are amongst other men there's always a need to have a cockfight? Does my confidence overshadow you in the worst of ways so much so that you must continuously and hopelessly try to demote me, only failing at each try because, what you forget is that I'm agile, able to roll with each punch and dive from each kick.

To keep it on the simpler side of things, confidence is, and always will be key. If you don't like it... Make sure you change your locks.

What's In a Friend?

When is it that we come to a realization that the people in our lives that we call friends aren't really our friends? Is there a point when we are able to have buddies whether they be male or female and can hang out with these people without drinking, having sex with or work being the only thing that binds us?

Do we have the ability to sit down and have a regular conversation, shoot the shit, talk about current events, the progression of our lives or any other random topic that crosses our minds without that leading to something more? When you realize your friendship isn't able to handle that, what are you to do?... Delete them from your Facebook, iPhone and/or your life? Or do we have an epiphany in which we are able to weed some out and keep others?

It may behoove you to take a step outside of yourself, look at your life and your relationships and examine them. Is there anyone in your life who is superfluous? If so, they may be a spacefiller for someone who is actually of some value...

Near and Deer

Sometimes we have to be honest with ourselves about things we see coming before they roll in with a gust of bombardment. We put ourselves in situations which have consequences that render us a deer in headlights. If we glaze over details and clues about things that are continuously being foreshadowed, how do we handle them when they hit us in the face?

As a people we like to tell ourselves that we like to see the best in people but we really only see the worst, and we look at situations from angles that are unobtrusive to what they really are. We look for things for so long but rarely appreciate them when they've actually managed to come into our lives...

in short we never appreciate what we have, we only look for more, because man is never satisfied. Ain't that a kick in the head?...

Diss-Communication

It's unfortunate when we become targets for people to misconstrue. The relationships we've built should hold through rain, sleet and snow, yet sometimes the people who are closest to us and know us best have the ability to take a word, event or happenstance and turn it 180 degrees into something that it isn't. 

How do we respond to that? Should we give them the space they are subtly asking for? If we give them too much space we obviously don't care about them or the friendship. If we don't give them enough space that makes us controlling and not acknowledging that the friendship needs a break and said hurt party needs time to heal. 

As much as we like to think of ourselves as great friends, we don't always know what each of our other friends are thinking. So when there is a rift in the friendship, hopefully both parties are willing to come together and fix the problem. After all, it takes two to tango...