Everyone has heard the saying "You can never know where you're going until you understand where you came from" or some form of the saying. Conversely, you can never really know where you're going if you're stuck in where you are. As of late, I've felt completely and utterly stagnant to the point where ANY vacation would be a good one.
There are times in our lives where we just need to get away from it all, don't we owe ourselves that? Hasn't the monotony of everyday life gotten to be too much to deal with? Certainly a small break is MORE than deserved for a couple of days. Of course it is. Whether it's a spa day, a road trip, or a vacation overseas. We all need those little getaways to keep us sane. As the saying goes, all work and no play makes for a dull boy. No one likes to be dull, it's all about looking sharp and living smart!
Monday, March 7, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Blog Facelift
It's not always about rejuvenation, most times it's about maintenance, however this blog DEFINITELY needed a facelift. So that's what I'm doing, reconstructing it to be able to bring you the best in everything. Keep checking in and hopefully you like what you see.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Diffusion of Responsiblity
(Please watch the video at the bottom first)
I recently came across a link that randomly came up when I searched for a different video on Youtube that completely and utterly disgusted me. It's a video that, being 1:22 in length encompasses the attack of a middle aged white male by two black female youths. In the video (which I've included a link to) he is repeatedly attacked by the two girls with dozens, maybe hundreds of people watching. Not a SINGLE person decided to protest the attack nor did they step in to help him. He CLEARLY asks how these people could just sit here and let this happen, and I couldn't believe no one stepped in to offer assistance.
It brings me to the case of Kitty Genovese who was stabbed to death outside of her home in New York in 1964. She was 100 feet from her door with thirty-eight people hearing her cries, seeing her struggle, yet no one called the police or lifted a finger to help her until well after the attack had occurred, watching her nearly lifeless body attempt to stagger to its feet. They watched, as the attack went on and until it was over.
It's what social psychologists now refer to as "diffusion of responsibility". What ignites my anger is how, as a people in society can we allow this to happen! How does NO ONE feel obligated to step in and save their fellow man? In my opinion, those people who stand around and watch someone commit a crime as grave as the aforementioned should be prosecuted as a party to that crime. In the days of Genovese, people just watched, not helplessly, because there were definite ways of helping, but in the days of Youtube where people shoot videos 1:22 long and longer without helping, yet adding commentary to each visual blow by blow, that is a DEFINITE party to a crime in my book.
It is our social DUTY to correct an injustice in front of us, KNOWINGLY allowing things like that to happen only furthers us from the humane behavior that we should be exhibiting and only diminishes our standings as superior beings to primates and other animals. There's no wonder that shows like Candid Camera and What Would You Do have been so popular, human behavior is at times peculiar, and sometimes sickening.
I recently came across a link that randomly came up when I searched for a different video on Youtube that completely and utterly disgusted me. It's a video that, being 1:22 in length encompasses the attack of a middle aged white male by two black female youths. In the video (which I've included a link to) he is repeatedly attacked by the two girls with dozens, maybe hundreds of people watching. Not a SINGLE person decided to protest the attack nor did they step in to help him. He CLEARLY asks how these people could just sit here and let this happen, and I couldn't believe no one stepped in to offer assistance.
It brings me to the case of Kitty Genovese who was stabbed to death outside of her home in New York in 1964. She was 100 feet from her door with thirty-eight people hearing her cries, seeing her struggle, yet no one called the police or lifted a finger to help her until well after the attack had occurred, watching her nearly lifeless body attempt to stagger to its feet. They watched, as the attack went on and until it was over.
It's what social psychologists now refer to as "diffusion of responsibility". What ignites my anger is how, as a people in society can we allow this to happen! How does NO ONE feel obligated to step in and save their fellow man? In my opinion, those people who stand around and watch someone commit a crime as grave as the aforementioned should be prosecuted as a party to that crime. In the days of Genovese, people just watched, not helplessly, because there were definite ways of helping, but in the days of Youtube where people shoot videos 1:22 long and longer without helping, yet adding commentary to each visual blow by blow, that is a DEFINITE party to a crime in my book.
It is our social DUTY to correct an injustice in front of us, KNOWINGLY allowing things like that to happen only furthers us from the humane behavior that we should be exhibiting and only diminishes our standings as superior beings to primates and other animals. There's no wonder that shows like Candid Camera and What Would You Do have been so popular, human behavior is at times peculiar, and sometimes sickening.
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Box Up, Ship Out
As the new year draws closer there are calendar events that feature holidays in which family, friends and people we rarely see come in and out of our lives. While this is fine and people may very well only be in our lives for a season, why not take the time to do a little winter cleanup of some friendships?...
Think of it as switching from your Winter wardrobe to your Spring collection. There are many superfluous items that you can box up and ship out. This, in the fashion of those who no longer bring you comfort, cause more upbraids than enjoyment and are more stress inducing than relaxing.
Keep those articles of clothing (people) that have brought you warmth and security through the cold time and bring them closer. Those great layers that you need that aren't too heavy, yet aren't light enough to seem unnecessary.
What this does for us is allowing us to start anew, slate unscathed and ready for the world. Why not take this new slate and open yourself up to new experiences, in the end, you'll definitely thank yourself for a job well done!
Think of it as switching from your Winter wardrobe to your Spring collection. There are many superfluous items that you can box up and ship out. This, in the fashion of those who no longer bring you comfort, cause more upbraids than enjoyment and are more stress inducing than relaxing.
Keep those articles of clothing (people) that have brought you warmth and security through the cold time and bring them closer. Those great layers that you need that aren't too heavy, yet aren't light enough to seem unnecessary.
What this does for us is allowing us to start anew, slate unscathed and ready for the world. Why not take this new slate and open yourself up to new experiences, in the end, you'll definitely thank yourself for a job well done!
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Prob-ability
Unfortunately it's been about 4 months since last I posted, in that time, SO much has happened. People have come and gone in my life like the seasons change. Which causes me to ask myself, why are so many of us what my best friend has dubbed "emotional cutters"?
We allow people into our lives that we KNOW are toxic, yet, we allow them to stay for reasons beyond our understanding. It seems to me that a warm body next to us is better than being alone so we hold on to the festering person that intensifies our sickness. Friendships are a lot like relationships, the only differing factor is the sex that's involved, sometimes there are "friends with benefits" so inherently, they ARE relationships.
In a perfect world every friendship and relationship would be 50/50, but as we all know, most of these end because one person is giving a hell of a lot more than they're receiving. So, ultimately it's up to that person to determine whether or not the relationship they're pursuing is worth the hassle that they're going through... chances are, it isn't.
We allow people into our lives that we KNOW are toxic, yet, we allow them to stay for reasons beyond our understanding. It seems to me that a warm body next to us is better than being alone so we hold on to the festering person that intensifies our sickness. Friendships are a lot like relationships, the only differing factor is the sex that's involved, sometimes there are "friends with benefits" so inherently, they ARE relationships.
In a perfect world every friendship and relationship would be 50/50, but as we all know, most of these end because one person is giving a hell of a lot more than they're receiving. So, ultimately it's up to that person to determine whether or not the relationship they're pursuing is worth the hassle that they're going through... chances are, it isn't.
Monday, July 26, 2010
Skeleton Key
'Betrothed to greatness shall I be, forever til eternity..." That's a little something I came up with after having a more than heated upbraid with a friend about a current chart topper. Flo-rida's 'Club Can't Handle Me' has been on repeat on my iPod for a couple of weeks now. The premise of the song is how he arrives at the club and becomes the epitome of party. How he can and will spend as much money, cause the largest ruckus and get the most attention doing whatever it is that he must do to have a good time. While I'm totally fine with this and can obviously relate, my counterpart on the other hand had more than an extreme aversion to such boisterous and ludicrous (not ludacris kids) behavior... Which brings me to the subject of this post, why are we so threatened by the confidence of others?
Do we see something in them that we deeply aspire to have injected into our personality consoles? Do we imagine ourselves being assembled, completely equipped and loaded with all the personality traits and materialistic qualities that we wished we possessed but only come to despise because, oh no, someone else has the pleasure of exuding such things?...
Why do women constantly berate each other and call one another whore and slut because this girl or that girl is getting more attention from the fairer sex because of her ample bossoms and ass-ets.. Should it not bode well for you that you have other ways of getting noticed, or does it bother you THAT much that you wish you were in her shoes? I've always heard that a drunk girl's actions are a sober girl's thoughts...
Or why is it that when men are amongst other men there's always a need to have a cockfight? Does my confidence overshadow you in the worst of ways so much so that you must continuously and hopelessly try to demote me, only failing at each try because, what you forget is that I'm agile, able to roll with each punch and dive from each kick.
To keep it on the simpler side of things, confidence is, and always will be key. If you don't like it... Make sure you change your locks.
Do we see something in them that we deeply aspire to have injected into our personality consoles? Do we imagine ourselves being assembled, completely equipped and loaded with all the personality traits and materialistic qualities that we wished we possessed but only come to despise because, oh no, someone else has the pleasure of exuding such things?...
Why do women constantly berate each other and call one another whore and slut because this girl or that girl is getting more attention from the fairer sex because of her ample bossoms and ass-ets.. Should it not bode well for you that you have other ways of getting noticed, or does it bother you THAT much that you wish you were in her shoes? I've always heard that a drunk girl's actions are a sober girl's thoughts...
Or why is it that when men are amongst other men there's always a need to have a cockfight? Does my confidence overshadow you in the worst of ways so much so that you must continuously and hopelessly try to demote me, only failing at each try because, what you forget is that I'm agile, able to roll with each punch and dive from each kick.
To keep it on the simpler side of things, confidence is, and always will be key. If you don't like it... Make sure you change your locks.
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